‘Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. And Adam said: ‘This is now bone of my bone And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.’ Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.’ (Gen. 2:22-24)
God has blessed me with a wonderful woman, Susan to be my wife. It is true for me when people refer to her as the better half. We met back in 1983. Actually she was the first person I spoke to when I started my new job. We did not like each other too much then and little did we know that we were going to spend the rest of our lives together as one.
A year later, we became good friends and we used to go out with other friends from the office. Eventually we became best friends. Susan had a boyfriend that lived abroad. She and I were so close that I would usually drop her and pick her up from the airport. I would listen to her talk on and on about the good times they had together.
One time, her boyfriend came to Trinidad and upon meeting him, I realized that this was not the person I wanted my best friend to spend her life with.
In my mind, his lifestyle was not good enough for her. After about 5 years of being best of friends, we decided that we should take the relationship a step further and we started courting.
We did this for another 3 years before deciding to get married. Therefore, we knew each other’s faults very well and we were willing to work with it. In 1991 we tied the knot. We spent 3 years together and then we started to feel like something was missing, that is when we made up our minds that it was time for a baby. Our daughter, Sarah was born in November 1994.
Each marriage has its ups and downs. If yours does not, be prepared for it.
As a married couple we had our fair share of problems which stemmed mainly from disagreements in many different things. Who to visit, what to eat, what to wear, why do this, when to go and where to go? To solve these numerous problems we had to learn that compromise was the best way to resolve our conflicts. There were times we felt that we had enough and we wished that we could go our separate ways.
Thankfully for us God created a situation in our lives, where we had to be away from each other for 6 months. Believe me, it must have been the worst period of our lives, we missed each other so much that we regretted all the time we wasted arguing and being unhappy with each other. We eventually realized that the things we used to argue about were so insignificant and we are able to look back at it now and laugh. This time away from Susan was so dreadful that it was the first time I was ever diagnosed with high blood pressure in my life.
We still have arguments from time to time (thank God not as much as before), however, we understand that we are humans, not perfect and we will make mistakes at times.
We are now learning to forgive. After receiving Jesus Christ in our lives last year, he has made it so much easier for us to forgive and forget. God forgives us for all our sins when we come to repentance, so who are we not to forgive someone who has hurt us in our lives. We no longer dwell on our disappointments anymore. We leave it up to God and we focus on all the wonderful things He has done for us. We used to depend on each other to keep ourselves happy, now we depend on God to fill us with His joy and happiness.
Jesus quoted this passage when He was asked about marriage:
“The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, ‘Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?’ And He answered and said to them, ‘Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning “made them male and female,” and said, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.’ They said to Him, ‘Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?’ He said to them, ‘Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery'”
You may be going through a rough patch in your life right now and you may feel that the only solution is to divorce your spouse, but before you do anything drastic please remember God has the answer to everything.
If you surrender everything to Him and let Him take control of your life, you will see how He will begin to work supernaturally in your life.
He will set up different situations in your life, things you would not be able to do on your own and you would know that it is God working in your life. He can take any negative situation and turn it into a positive. Just trust in Him. God is able and willing to help you. The question is “Are you able and willing to seek Him first?”
If you feel that you are too much of a “big sinner” (if there is such a thing) and you do not think that you are worthy of calling on God, believe me, this is the devil feeding thoughts into your mind. The devil does not want you to turn to God because he knows he will be defeated. Ask Jesus to come into your life and He will open the doors for you and show you the right way. Call upon His name and you will be saved.
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