A Healthy Relationship values self as well as the other person. You need to understand your worth! A successful relationship is comprised of two individuals – each with a clearly defined sense of her or his own identity. Without our own understanding of self, of who we are and what makes us unique, it is difficult to engage in the process of an ongoing relationship in a way that functions smoothly and enhances each partner.

We need a sense of self in order to clearly communicate our needs and desires to our partner.

When we have a strong conception of our own identity, we can appreciate and love those qualities in our partner that make him or her a unique person. When two people come together, each with a clear definition of his or herown individuality and worth, the potential for intimacy and commitment can be astounding. The similarities between two people may bring them together, but their differences contribute to the growth, excitement and mystery of their relationship.

Once you understand your worth you will understand the worth of others and not only seek what is in it for me but how can I treat others who are priceless.

Relationships thrive when both partners are kind, accepting, compassionate and empathetic.

This occurs naturally once you have learned to be kind, accepting and compassionate toward yourself, but it becomes a huge challenge when you are abandoning yourself. When people take loving care of themselves and take responsibility for making themselves happy, they generally want to share their happiness with loved ones.

“What’s in it for me?” is the first question we subconsciously ask ourselves.

The problem is, you can’t just take and take in relationships. If you don’t give back something of equal or greater value, there’s no reason for other people to stay around you. That’s why investing yourself in relationships works so well. So make people feel good, give them your undivided attention and make time for people.

How about the 2nd Characteristic that we usually require: “Has honesty.” What does that look like in relationships? Please leave your comments below. I am presently dealing with Defence Mechanisms and their impact on relationships on the Radio Program “Healthy Relationships” on 98.1fm on Mondays. Please tune in and get a friend to listen also. Blessings!

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