e have all been hurt in our lives at some point in time, or there has been someone who crossed our paths and has done something to us that has made us really angry or caused us to have hate in our lives. Sometimes, we may not even realize that we are holding something against a person who did us wrong.
Most of the time, we try to let it go. We think, “I will just forget about this and learn from the lesson.” However, if the person’s name is mentioned in a conversation or you happen to see them passing by, you begin to remember the wrong things that this person did to you in the past and you suddenly feel a sense of resentment.
This my friend, is how you can tell you have unforgiveness in your life.
How do we deal with it? Is it okay to feel this way? Is there a solution or a remedy to prevent this unforgiveness from stealing your joy in life? I believe that there is.
When Jesus Christ walked the earth, He taught us how to pray and He said this in Matthew 6:9-15
“Therefore, you should pray like this: Our father in heaven, Your name be honored as holy. Your kingdom come. Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And do not bring us into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one. For if you forgive people their wrongdoing, your heavenly Father will forgive you as well. But if you don’t forgive people, your Father will not forgive your wrongdoing.”
These are the words of the Most High Jesus Christ. It is not my words or the words of a well known pastor, preacher or priest.
Therefore, if He (the creator of the world) says so, who are we to doubt Him and think that there is nothing wrong with holding a grudge once I am living a good life.
I have been there and I know what it is like to have unforgiveness. Actually, there was a person whom I thought I forgave. However, one day this person walked past me and I began to feel a bitterness building up inside of me. I remembered the incident between the two of us, which took place some four years before, as if it had just occurred. That is when it clicked, I really didn’t forgive this person. I then realized that I was unable to do it on my own.
I needed help, so I prayed to God. I said “God, you know I thought I had forgiven this person. It looks like I can’t do it on my own and I need You to help me do it.” That was all it took. Believe me, from that moment, I felt as if a burden was lifted and to think that I was not even aware that I was carrying a load. Anyhow, I am now able to have a civilized conversation with this individual, something I could not do in the past.
Some of you may be saying “Well you do not know what I have gone through and if you did then you would understand why it is I cannot forgive.”
I say to you “What about Jesus? What did He do to deserve what was meted out to Him by the Romans? Remember, He was without sin in His life, in other words, He had done nothing wrong. Yet He was dragged before the courts, slapped up and beaten beyond recognition. (Isaiah 52-14) “His appearance was so disfigured that He did not look like a man and His form did not resemble a human being. Jesus was nailed to the cross.
The people stood watching and the leaders kept jeering “He saved others, let Him save Himself if He is the Messiah”. They mocked Him, yet He did not open His mouth. He could have easily called out to the Father saying “Send the angels to save Me” but instead He said “Father forgive them, because they do not know what they are doing.” Jesus knew that He came to the earth to fulfill a purpose, that is, to pay the price for our sins. He was sacrificed as the unblemished (sinless) Lamb of God, for our iniquities.
God knew that we could not save ourselves so He sent His Son Jesus to save us.
Jesus was blameless, yet condemned by man. He submitted Himself to death so that we could have eternal life. He could have saved Himself from going to the cross because He had the power, however, He chose instead to show us His love and died for us. He forgave us. My friends, who are we not to forgive someone who has wronged us in the past? Of course it may seem difficult, but think about this. Who does not want you to forgive? Yes the devil. And he is the one who wants you to think that it is too difficult and not worth it to forgive.
Remember, Satan is the father of lies and his job is to prevent us from going to heaven. He will do what he can to keep us in a state of unforgiveness because he knows God will not forgive those who do not forgive.
If you are struggling with unforgiveness in your life right now, I urge you to talk to God. Let Him know that you are hurting and it is difficult for you to forgive. Tell Him that you truly want to forgive but you cannot do it on your own and you need His help. God is next to you waiting for you to call on Him. Put your trust in Him and He will show you the way to release it.
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