Hey guys, I have an exciting topic to share with you, it’s going to make life much easier for you and your spouse. If you’re not yet married, good for you, this is a heads-up, especially for the ladies, so take note.
I put together a list of 5 things that women do in a relationship that men hate. Now ladies, I gathered this information from the horse’s mouth. I interviewed at least 10 gentlemen and compiled this list from their feedback. As much as you may try to disagree, this is how men feel about some of the things we do on a daily basis. Notice I said “we”, so yeah, I’m including myself. So here goes!
1They all unanimously placed nagging as number one on this list!
Ladies ladies ladies, do you have any idea what a nagging woman sounds like to a man? Hahaha, I apologize. I’m sure at this point some women are reading this and saying to themselves, “thank God I’m not a nagging woman” The truth is, most women nag and are not aware of it. It’s more than just what you say, but how and when you choose to say it. Men are not looking for another mother to tell them when to come home, to go wash the dishes, put out the garbage etc. So please stop mothering them! It drives them crazy. Proof that women are prone to nagging are several scriptures that talk about it.
“A quarrelsome wife is like the dripping of a leaky roof in a rainstorm. Restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand”. Proverbs 27:15 The Word of God is so practical. It contains wisdom for every area of our lives. So ladies stop trying to control men by your constant yapping, your job is to support and help them, not nag and annoy.
2 Close behind nagging is insecurity and jealousy.
From insecurity stems many other issues that woman face, issues that can cause a host of problems between couples. An insecure woman, no matter how attractive in reality, can never be confident in who she is, and this means extra work for her mate. He will find himself constantly having to reassure her that he loves her and she’s beautiful, and even after doing it over and over, she still does not believe him. It’s frustrating to a guy when you get jealous if he talks to or even glances at another woman, especially if she’s attractive. An insecure woman also believes that correc
tion or criticism of her in anyway is an attack towards her and she tends to react very strongly and can become aggressive toward her mate. This is also a part of being overly sensitive, which is another sign of insecurity. I’ll give you a simple example of this.
Husband: Honey, you know, I really don’t like your hair like that, why don’t you comb it differently?
Wife: So, you don’t like how I look? I got my hair done especially for you! Seems like I can’t do anything to please you. (cry cry cry)
Husband: (wide eyed, scratching head, confused)
As simple as this little scenario may seem, you can tell if someone is dealing with insecurity by their reaction to criticism. It puts your partner in a position where they always have to be careful what they say to you, they don’t feel free to be open about certain issues, and this can cause problems in a relationship. If you don’t believe that God loves you, no man can provide you with the emotional stability that you’re looking for.
God loves you so much ladies, and your true personality and beauty will shine so brightly, if you would allow the Glory of God to shine through you.
Think about a woman walking this earth exhibiting God’s glory! That’s priceless.
3A disrespectful, bossy woman.
No man likes a woman who’s openly embarrassing him, shouting at him, bossing him around. It’s a very undesirable quality in a woman. It goes against the very nature of a man to be spoken down to by a woman. God appointed man as the head over women, and the Bible has a lot to say about how women are to interact with men and even in society. Guys, if you are dating a young woman who displays these kinds of tendencies, and her excuse for it is, “you’re not my husband” Run! If she does not respect you now, she won’t when you’re married either.
“Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. 4 You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. 5 This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They trusted God a
nd accepted the authority of their husbands. 6 For instance, Sarah obeyed her husband, Abraham, and called him her master. You are her daughters when you do what is right without fear of what your husbands might do.” 1 Peter 3: 3-6
4A Needy woman.
Let me explain what the guys said this was. Its the type of woman who must be entertained in order to be happy with you. One who thinks that proof of your love for her is buying her stuff, taking her for dinner every weekend, and sending flowers every Valentine’s Day. Now don’t get me wrong, if your husband or boyfriend is doing these things, great! It’s only natural to want to make your mate feel happy and buy them presents, but if on the occasion that they don’t, you throw a hissy fit, then your motives can be questioned.
Ladies, if you are looking for someone to complete you and make you happy, you might have actually met Him already. His name is Jesus, and He’s the only one who can. If you thought it was a man’s responsibility to do these things, you are wrong. We all have a responsibility to love, and love gives, not takes, love does not seek its own, its not about what makes me happy, but what can I do to make you feel happy. Imagine the lives of a couple who are constantly trying to bless each other without a thought of “what do I get out of this relationship?” Ladies, forget the fairy tales and stop looking for Prince Charming, you become Sarah of Bible and be a blessing to your husband, serve and love. If you’re not yet married, get yourself ready, read about the might women in the Bible and take example from godly women in your lives. Most importantly, ask the Holy Spirit for guidance and His expectation of you as a woman and wife.
5The flirty woman.
This is the overly-friendly, touchy woman. Now please, lets all be adults here, I’m not saying that guys don’t like friendly women, but there’s a fine line between friendly and flirty. No man wants to be looking over his shoulder all the time, and I’m not talking about the insecure man, but the man who’s victim to a flirt. One of the most important things to a man is knowing that his wife is faithful and trustworthy, and having a wife or girlfriend who hugs every male friend she meets and kisses his cheek, is not exactly comforting. What a woman might consider “innocent fun”, like tickling her male friend or sitting on his lap, is far from innocent to a man.
So ladies be aware of your gestures when interacting with the opposite sex, and be careful that your actions are not being driven by the spirit of lust.
Guys, don’t marry a woman who’s still dealing with the spirit of lust if you’re looking for a faithful wife. How do you know if she has the spirit of lust? It dictates her dress, speech, the way she interacts with men, and the direction her relationships
go, by that I mean, has she been intimate with every guy she’s dated? These can all be indications that she’s driven by lust and need to be set free before embarking on a marriage relationship.
I hope this blog has been an eye opener for you ladies, some personality issues that you might have to work on. If you are married and find these things come up as issues in your life, submit them to God and seek Godly wisdom from women of God who stood the test of time. If you are not married you’re in a great place, get yourself ready by learning who you really are through the word of God and walk in it.
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