Hi folks, I’m going to a place where men fear to tread and women don’t even bother trying..lol. I’m going to look at submission in the bible and a woman’s role as it pertains to submission.

So let me start by saying that I have been married for 13 years, so submission is more than just a subject I’m talking about today, it’s a daily part of my life. Now this is going to sound very strange to you, but I have two husbands. In light of my topic today, think about me trying to submit to both of them if they contradict each other! Oh, let me just clear things up before I move on, my other husband is Jesus. He’s Lord of my life and that means I do what He says.

Let’s look at what He says in the scriptures with regard to women and submission.

Ephesians 5: 22-24 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the Saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

Ladies, this is God’s word, not mine. The first verse says, submit to your husband as you do to the Lord. So first thing, if you can’t submit to God’s word, I don’t expect you to be able to submit to a man of God. The other thing is, if you choose to submit yourself to a man who is not submitted to God, this is where there will be conflict with your other husband, Jesus.

Remember, you get to choose who you submit to, and your choice can make life so much easier or so much more difficult.

I’ve heard countless woman make statements like, ” he is not my father, he can’t tell me what to do” or “this is my body, I could do what I want” or ” this is 2014, the days of submissive women have long gone” or ” I’m an Independent woman, I make my own decisions”. Ladies, if you are single, your husband is Jesus, and you have to submit your lives to Him. If the Holy Spirit prompts you to change the way you dress or He tries to warn you about your choice of relationships and you just ignore Him, then your life is not submitted to God. If this describes you now, take heart, as you walk with God and fall more in love with Him, submission will come, but a word of advice, stay single for a little while longer..lol.

What would be your position in marriage if your husband asks you to change your pants because he’s thinks it’s too tight or you really want your daughter to take ballet lessons but he is against it?

While you think about that, let me highlight the next verse of that scripture.

“For the husband is HEAD of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church”. With that said, if you are one of those independent women who likes to make her own decisions, that’s ok when you’re single, but if you decide to marry and place yourself under a HEAD, you must be willing to make adjustments to your lifestyle. If you can’t do that, stay single, your life can be just as fulfilling even if you never marry. In the marriage union, there’s an order to things: Christ, man, woman. The man is the head of the household and this is God appointed. The last verse says, “so let wives be subject to their own husbands in everything”! Oh my, are you reading what I am reading? In verse 31 of Ephesians 5 it says that the two shall become one flesh. There goes the “it’s my body I can do what I want” statement out the door. If you’ve made a decision to become one with someone, it’s only natural that submission would be a big part of your life, for both parties, but I’m dealing with the ladies today. Even without a law from God you could work that out. If you are not ok with becoming one with your husband, and would like to continue doing whatever you want with your body, that’s okay, just don’t get married.

All over the scriptures God is showing us what a Godly woman and wife should look like.

1 Peter 3:1-6 “In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over by observing your pure and reverent lives. Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They trusted God and accepted the authority of their husbands. For instance, Sarah obeyed her husband, Abraham, and called him her master. You are her daughters when you do what is right without fear of what your husbands might do.”

1 Timothy 2:9-10 In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety, not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array. But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. These two scriptures say so much about God’s expectation of a woman and wife.

  1. Quiet, gentle spirit
  2. Modest (Having or showing regard for decencies of behavior, speech, dress)
  3. Shamefacedness ( Extremely modest or shy, bashful)
  4. Sober (serious, sensible, dignified)
  5. A woman of good works
  6. Obedient to her husband

Unfortunately, these are not attributes that we find in the modern woman or wife today, women have moved far from God’s original design for them, in fact women who display these attributes are considered weak and simple minded today.

Love is the greatest motivator for submission.

The greatest example of this is God’s love for us, demonstrated by the life of Jesus Christ on this earth. A man who thought it not robbery to be equal with God but made himself of no reputation. Jesus found Himself while on earth, born a man and He was able to humble himself and submit to His earthly form. He did this because He loves us and it was His father’s will. If you have found yourself in the form of a woman while on earth, why not humble yourself and submit to God’s plan for you. If you are married I pray you have a Godly husband that makes submission second nature, if not, 1 Peter 3 tells you exactly what to do. If you are not married search the word of God, see who God has made you to be and clothe yourself with a submissive, gentle, quiet spirit, this is who you are.

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